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as i mentioned the other day, sometimes we fight with those we care about. old friends. new friends. family members.
when it is an established friendship, you know you can have your disagreement and things will sort themselves out. you know it doesn't signify the end of anything, merely an opportunity to re-group and get back on the same page.
with new friends it is more tricky. there is a learning curve. there is the panic of oh does this make our friendship not worth fighting for.
no matter the situation, in the aftermath of those moments, we often realize a thing or two. these heated conversations don't happen for no reason. most often they teach us something. something about our friend, something about ourselves, usually both.
in the most basic sense the fight reminds us that the friendship is something we value enough to fight about. in my case, i am usually reminded how much i care (sometimes more than i intended to, sometimes too much).
it can be a hard realization sometimes. yet it is only after we realize our feelings that we can understand our reaction and take the steps necessary to move forward, whatever that may mean.
all i can do is continually try my best to be a good person.
today, i remind myself to keep an open mind for learning, open arms for caring, and an open heart for loving.
if you find it in your heart to care for somebody else, you will have succeeded. -maya angelou
